 Men have always had to pay for sex—in money, marriage, respect, longterm commitment, or willingness to help raise children. – Erotic Capital: The Power of Attraction in the Boardroom and the Bedroom by Catherine Hakim
It's not clear to me whether men have to give up some of the respect that would otherwise be theirs, have to respect women, or both to get sex. I feel like I should understand this before I go any further.
Also, it's manifestly clear that women do not incur these costs. Um. 

 I am reading
Erotic
Capital by Catherine Hakim. One of the author's contentions
is that despite large amounts of propaganda to the contrary, men
generally do want sex more often than women do. To this end,
she cites some surveys that asked the question: Do you wish there
were more sex in your current relationship? The numbers seem
pretty clear after age 20 that men more often feel there should be
more sex in their current relationship than there is. The only way
that I feel the numbers might be misleading (assuming no reporting errors) is that if women are far
more likely to draw the distinction between more sex
and more sex in this relationship .
So, fine. But, then the argument jumps the shark when it goes on
to talk about the number of sexual partners men have in their
lifetimes versus how many women have in their lifetimes. I almost
crashed my car last night thinking about how wrong this argument was.
I was trying to find the right analogy and totally believed while
doing this that the crosstraffic at my intersection had a stop sign.
I got some angry honks, but that's way better than getting hit. And,
it's way better than the math in this book.
From the context, it seems clear that, for the purposes of the
surveys involved, sexual partner means sexual partner of the
opposite sex . The book says that survey after survey shows that,
on average, men have two to three times the number of sexual partners
in their lifetime than women have. It cites this as evidence that men
want sex more often or just more than women do.
Let's do the math. How do we calculate the average number of
sexual partners men have? We ask every man, How many sexual
partners (of the opposite sex) have you had? . We sum up all of
those and divide by the number of men surveyed. How do we calculate
the average number of sexual partners women have? We ask every
woman, How many sexual partners (of the opposite sex) have you
had? . We sum up all of those and divide by the number of women
surveyed.
Assume for a minute that we were able to survey a whole, closed
population. For every woman on a given man's list of female sexual
partners, that man is on her list. This is true for every man. For
every man on a given woman's list of male sexual partners, that woman
is on his list. This is true for every woman.
Some part of your brain is probably trying to figure out a way
where if things were imbalanced enough... if there were a few really
active women and lots of moderately active men or some such thing, it
might still work out. It doesn't. It's like saying that on average
Canadians enter two to three times as many buildings as they exit each
day.
Where does this leave us? This means that for it to be true that
men have two to three times the number of sexual partners in their
lifetimes than women have, either:
 Men live two to three times as long as women,
 There are two to three times more women than men, or
 Some combination of the two
None of that is borne out by the demographics. Women live longer
than men and make up a (slightly) greater proportion of the
population.
What do the surveys show then?
It may be there are a few women with anomolously high numbers of
sexual partners who also manage to slip through the cracks of the
survey. This seems highly unlikely. Even if true, it doesn't
bolster the argument that men want sex more than women do.
It may be there are a few men with anomolously high numbers of
sexual partners who manage to get picked for all of the surveys. This
seems highly unlikely. Even if true, it doesn't bolster the argument
that men want sex more than women do.
It may be that men and women differ in how well they remember the
number of sexual partners they have and that one group is or both
groups are systemically wrong in exactly the right way to make this
impossible statistic. This seems highly unlikely. Even if true, it
doesn't bolster the argument that men want sex more than women do.
It may be that women, in general, have a narrower definition of
what constitutes a sexual partner than men do. This doesn't seem
unlikely, but it also doesn't bolster the argument that men want sex
more than women do.
It may be that there are societal pressures for men to inflate
their numbers (even on anonymous surveys) and/or for women to deflate
their numbers (even on anonymous surveys). I think it's undeniable
that this is the case and could easily account for the whole of
the two to three times factor. It still doesn't bolster the
argument that men want sex more than women do.
If I were arguing that Canadians prefer being indoors to outdoors
and cited a statistic saying Canadians enter two to three times as
many buildings on average as they exit each day , I should be
pilloried.
I'm not saying men do or do not want sex more than women do (or
that Canadians prefer being indoors or out). I'm saying that citing
these surveys as evidence of an argument either way destroys your
credibility.
I don't know if I can keep reading this book. 

 I have been reading through #yesALLwomen threads and #notALLmen crap. I've been trying to think of what best I can contribute to move the ball forward. Here's my first step.
#YesAllMen Pledge
I recognize that misogyny is pervasive in our society. I recognize that circumstances and privilege make it hard for me to see all of the ways misogyny affects the lives around me (even my own life). It is with this in mind that I pledge:
 I will believe you when you tell me you were victimized/diminished by misogyny;
 I will strive to see misogyny so you will not even have to tell me;
 I will call people on their misogynist behaviors/attitudes when I see it;
 When you call me on my misogynist behaviors/attitudes, my first words will be acknowledgement and apology;
 When you point out misogyny that I have missed, I will thank you and strive to see that form of misogyny and others like it from that moment forward; and
 I will never attempt to justify misogynist behaviors/attitudes: even partly, even my own, and even when there are worse examples in the world.
Further, as a parent, I will strive to raise my children to do the same.
Every time misogyny is beaten back, wonderful fruits blossom in its place. How great it would be if the oppressed/repressed could freely contribute their gifts and talents into making this a better world.
Misogyny diminishes us all.


 I've read a great deal more since I've bought a NOOK GlowLight than I ever have before. Here's what I read in 2013.
Fiction:
NonFiction:
Fiction that I bailed out on before the end:
Nonfiction that I bailed out on before the end:
For most of those books, I have reviews on Goodreads, but feel free to ask me more about any of them. 

 There are many, many things to love about my wife eyelid. One that I'm not sure I've ever mentioned to her before is this.... eyelid has an amazing aptitude for grokking stories and the characters in them. When I read a book, I tend to float along letting the characters do what they do and letting the story go where it goes. Even with just a few seconds of catching her up on the plot of what I'm reading or watching, she immediately calls out how/why some character action lacks any motivation or is out of line with the rest of the character. She's incredibly insightful and fast. It amazes me each time. Just one of the ways she keeps amazing me day after day. 

 At 10AM the day before, mix 150g of King Arthur Bread (or AllPurpose) Flour and 150g of water with the tiniest, tiniest sprinkle of Rapid Rise (Bread Machine) Yeast. I use a steel bowl and then invert a slightly larger steel bowl over it to keep it from drying out much. At bedtime the day before, add 350g of flour and 350g of water. Mix well. Keep covered as before. At 10AM the day of, add 500g of flour, 120g of water, 35g of salt. Mix well. Wait 20min. Knead for 8min. Divide into halves or thirds. Wait 10min. Shape into final shape. For round loaves, put a towel in a bowl that's just barely big enough for the ball of dough so the loaves have to rise up instead of out. Put the loaf inside the towel with the bottom of the loaf up. Cover the whole loaf with the ends of the towel. For long loaves, use a towel as a couche ( http://www.wildyeastblog.com/wpcontent/uploads/2007/07/batardsincouche.jpg ) with folds of the towel separating the loaves. Put one edge of it against the wall and use cookbooks or rolled up towels to keep pressure on the opposite edge so the loaves have to rise up instead of out. Let dough rise for 3hr and 15min (your time may vary depending on the room temperature. Our house stays at 74degrees). Preheat oven with pizza stone to 550degrees making sure it is at temperature at least 45min before bread is ready. I also keep a castiron skillet on the lowest rack of the oven. For round loaves, I also put a dutch oven (I have one castiron and one enamaled, both work quite well but the enameled one is a bit cramped) with lid in the oven for each loaf. For round loaves, I put them in the dutch ovens, score the tops of the loaves with a razor blade or somewhatserrated knife, put the lid on, put back in the oven. Lower temp to 485. Bake covered for 30min and uncovered for 10min (or until wellcolored). For long loaves, (or if you don't have dutch ovens): Put parchment on a cookie sheet with no edge (or on upside down sheet). Carefully move the risen loaves to the parchment by hand. Score the tops of the loaves with a razor blade or somewhatserrated knife. Slide parchment onto the pizza stone. Put 1/2 cup of crushed ice cubes into the iron skillet on the lowest rack. After 5min lower temp to 485 and bake for 17min (or until wellcolored). If the bread is coloring too quickly, cover with foil to slow down the color while getting heat to center. Remove bread from oven and put on wire racks to cool. There should be audible crackling of the crust here, especially dramatic if you didn't use a dutch oven. Note: I have tried at least a dozen brands of bread flour and allpurpose flour. King Arthur flour costs at least twice as much but would be a bargain at eight times as much. It's the best by far. Minimal yeast at the start ensures that the chemicals they use to process and preserve yeast don't dominate. The high water/flour ratio at the start allows the yeast to move around. Salt inhibits yeast development so it comes as late as possible. French bread ratios are 100 flour :: 62 water :: 24 salt (by weight). Pizza stone ensures bottom of bread gets blasted with heat when bread goes in. Dutch ovens ensure moisture from bread helps gelatinize the crust rather than waft out of the room. Crushed ice in pan tries to do the same but oven is so porous that it doesn't make all that much difference (still looking for an alternative, may have to get or make some baguette cloches http://www.breadtopia.com/store/media/OblongBrotformandCloche.JPG but all the ones that I've seen are too wide and too short). If the times don't work well with your schedule, 45hrs in the fridge is about the same as 1hr on the counter. 

 We both know it's been forever since I posted on LJ. This
one's too long for Twitter and doesn't mesh well with my
mostlyLisp blog. 'Nuff said.
I've started reading The Golden
Ticket: P, NP, and the Search for the Impossible by Lance
Fortnow. So far, I'm enjoying the material. However, he keeps
smacking into one of my biggest math peeves: Proof is Panacea.
Before I explain that or mention how it relates to Fortnow's
book, let me tell you where Numbers smacked
into this peeve.
Season
One, Episode Five gueststarred Neil Patrick Harris. NPH was
close to a proof of the Riemann
Hypothesis. The Riemann Hypothesis is closely linked to the
distribution of prime numbers. Prime numbers are intimately
involved in much of the encryption technology in use today (even
more so back when that episode first aired).
In the episode, NPH's daughter had been kidnapped by some
baddies that were demanding a complete proof of the Riemann
Hypothesis as ransom. Part of the premise of the episode was that
with such a proof the kidnappers would be able to decrypt any
secure internet transactions. Modern civilization would fall
apart.
At the time, eyelid asked me, What would
happen if someone could prove the Riemann Hypothesis? My
thought at the time (and still), is absolutely nothing in any sort
of short timeframe beyond winning the author a Millenium
Prize.
If there is anything you can do to break today's encryption
schemes once you know the Riemann Hypothesis to be true, then you
can already do that just by guessing that the Riemann Hypothesis
is true. Sure, there is a small chance that there will be some
new tool or new revelation that comes out of the manner in which
the Riemann Hypothesis is proven (or falsified) that might
eventually make finding particular primes easier. I consider that
a small chance and only after years of delving.
It is a sad truth that many of the great proofs are
nonconstructive. One of the easiest ones to follow is Euclid's
proof of the Infinitude of the Primes. Suppose for a moment
that there aren't infinitely many primes. If that were the case,
there would only be N of them for some (possibly large) number N.
If you multiply all of those primes together you get a number that
is divisible by every prime number. If you add one to that
number, now you have a number that has remainder one when divided
by any prime number. So, either this number is prime and wasn't
on your list, or you missed some prime that divides into this
number. It must, therefore, be impossible to have a finite list
of all of the prime numbers.
What can you do now that this has been proven that you couldn't
do before this was proven? You can prove things that depend on it
being true, but what can you do. The answer is
nothing new . You can't even name a single prime number that you should have had on your list. You can't tell whether any given number that didn't make your list is prime or not. You can't tell how many primes you might have missed. Anything you can do because we've proven
there are infinitely many primes, you could have done with just
the supposition (or hope) that there were infinitely many
primes.
I can understand how a TV drama might ignore that inconvenient
truth so it won't fizzle the tension in your plot, but I can't
forgive Fortnow the same sin. Fortnow says over and over again
that if you can prove that P =
NP then you can do all kinds of things easily that everyone
else still considers hard. You'll be able to optimally route your
Travelling Salesman, you'll be
able to crack my
public key, you'll be able to optimally fit your stuff
into the minimum
number of moving truck trips, and you'll be able to play a perfect game of Tetris if you know what order the pieces will come out.
First, as does Fortnow, I consider it very unlikely that P does
equal NP. Second, even if P = NP, I'd only give it about a one
in fifty chance of being provable. Third, if it's provable, I'd
give it a one in one thousand chance that the first proof will be
constructive. Fourth, even if it is constructive, I'd only give that
a one in ten chance of showing any way to find an algorithm in P
to solve any given problem.
Fortnow knows way more about P vs. NP than I do. Maybe he
knows something that he's not letting on about that guarantees
that the only way to prove P = NP is by demonstration. If that's
the case, I sure wish he'd tell me. But, I think he's either just
caught up in how cool it would be if NP were P or he's just
building drama by sweeping truth under the rug. 

 Suppose that you're travelling with four kids in the car. It's
getting to be time for lunch and you want to exercise the kids a bit.
Ohio has very nice rest areas, but you think a mall would be a better
fit. So, you search Apple Maps for a mall.
You've just passed the I90/I75 interchange. You don't want to go
back for all of the malls on the west side of Toledo, so you settle on
the Woodville Mall.
You get there to discover that the Woodville Mall
is all but condemned.
Fortunately, the babies have dozed off again. You need gas, but
the gas stations near the mall are $.15/gallon more than the
ones just off the highway were. So, you figure there will be some gas
stations near the Sandusky Mall. You head out.
You get to point B and haven't seen a gas station. You search
Apple Maps. It says that Coles Energy, Inc. is at around point
D and Shumaker Gary BP is at point C. You decide that Coles
Energy is probably a gas company rather than a gas station. You head
back to Shumaker's. You find that Shumaker's is a BP distribution
station. There are six tanker trucks and zero pumps.
You stop at a nearby restaurant. You explain to the lady behind
the counter that you're just passing through looking to get to the
Sandusky Mall and are in dire need of gasoline. She says,
Hmmm... and freezes up. You're thinking, Fabulous. The
nearest gas is going to be 30 miles back toward Toledo.
Finally, someone else jumps in and points you back toward point D.
There are three gas stations right near there which did not show up on
Apple Maps. Coles Energy was right across from the one you stopped at.
Coles, indeed, could provide for you if you had needed propane, but not
petrol. You got gas. Now, off to the mall.
Now, you are flipping back and forth between Apple Maps and Google
Maps to compare. Google Maps had Shumaker's on it. It also had one
of the three gas stations that had been right on your path. Of
course, somewhere in here, Apple Maps quit giving you spoken
directions. So, you missed the turn at point B in the previous map. You kick Apple Maps back into action and it leads you through the path shown to point C.
Point C is not anywhere near the actual Sandusky Mall. It is out
in the sticks. You passed through a closed campground and past a few
farms and through some sparse neighborhoods to get to point C. There
is no mall there at all. There are dirt roads. There is a bay.
Of course, you're way far away from decent cell reception now.
Neither Apple Maps or Google Maps can properly locate you. You
track down an intersection that's big enough to register on Google
Maps and start heading to what you hope is the real mall with
Google Maps now.
Now, there is a gorgeous rainbow over the road and an Ohio trooper
that just pulled over to start clocking cars. You were also expecting
the exit to be labelled Milan Road. You miss the turn at point B and
turn around at point C.
You make it almost to point D and fear that what was labelled
Sandusky Mall on Google Maps and the exit you took off of
Ohio2 is really just a Meijers store. Thankfully, you just gave up
a few hundred feet too early. The mall does exist, is open, does
sell food, and does have a children's play area. Now, it's dinner time.
Having been awake for 34hrs now, you send your spouse in with the kids while you take a somewhat
cramped nap on the floor of the van. The nap is surprisingly
pleasant until your boss calls to remind you that you need to turn
in your timecard sometime in the next 18hrs.
Feh.  Mood:amused


 Here's the situation. You're in an allday meeting at work. It comes time to order the pizza for lunch. A quick survey of the 20 people present reveals that four of you are vegetarian. Obviously, since 20% of the people are vegetarian, 20% of the pizzas should be meatfree.
Of course, this fails to take into account the fact that some nonvegetarians will have just a slice of the meatfree pizza.
There should be a name for this problem.
The first thing that comes to mind for me is the law of the excluded middle. According to the classical laws of thought, every proposition is either true or not true. There is no middle ground. For this situation, things would have to be framed as: That every person either only eats meatpizza or only eats nonmeatpizza. That doesn't quite work for me. This suggests the name The Law of the Excluded Eaters.
The next thing that comes to mind is Bayes' Theorem. According to Bayes' Theorem, the probability that someone is vegetarian given they are eating cheese pizza P(VC) is equal to the (prior) probability that someone is vegetarian P(V) times the probability that someone is eating cheese pizza given they are vegetarian P(CV) divided by the (prior) probability that someone is eating cheese pizza P(C). The pizza problem is a common fallacy that makes grokking Bayes' Theorem tough for people. The common fallacy is called Berkson's Paradox and is related to the Prosecutor's Fallacy. People inadvertently equate the probability of eating cheese pizza P(C) with the probability that one is vegetarian P(V). This suggests the name The Bayesian Pizza Paradox.
The next thing that comes to mind for me is a simple Venn diagram. The problem assumes that the set of people who eat meatpizza and the set of people who eat nonmeat pizza have zero members in common. The intersection is the Null Set. This suggests the name The Null Intersection Hypothesis.
I like the name, too, because of its association with the Null Hypothesis from statistics. It suggests that every grouppizza order is a sociological experiment where the assumption going in is that meat eaters will eat only meatpizza and nonmeat eaters will eat only nonmeat pizza.
The Venn diagram concept also brings up the InclusionExclusion Principle. By that principal, the number of people in the who eat either sausage pizza or cheese pizza S ∪ C is equal to the number of people who eat sausage pizza S plus the number of people who eat cheese pizza C minus the number of people who eat both sausage and cheese pizza S ∩ C. It is common for people to forget to subtract that last term. This works when the intersection is empty. This suggests the name The ExclusionExclusion Principle.
That same principle here is also related to the Triangle Inequality. By the triangle inequality, the number of people total is less than or equal to the number who eat only meat pizza and the number who eat only nonmeat pizza. This name is suggestive in shape. But, I'm not sure the Pizza Slice Inequality really works for me.
Another thing that comes to mind for me is the 8020 rule. In this case, though, it would be the 8080 rule: 80% of the people eat 80% of the pizza. It doesn't really work for me though. It doesn't fit well enough.
Another thing that comes to mind is proportional, representative democracy. One person = one vote. This suggests the name Representative Pizzocracy. But, it's not mathy enough for me.
Unless someone has a better suggestion, I'm going with the Null Intersection Hypothesis. 

 In a radio news story about the ongoing drought, some water company representative said that last month's water usage (in whatever area he was talking about... I don't remember... it doesn't matter here...) was 300 million gallons. We have many, many commonly used subdivisions of gallons:  1/4th of a gallon is a quart
 1/2 of a quart is a pint
 1/2 of a pint is a cup
 1/8th of a cup is an ounce
 1/2 an ounce is a tablespoon
 1/3rd of a tablespoon is a teaspoon
We have many units of liquid measure larger than a gallon when it's wine or ale.  One rundlet is 18 gallons of wine
 One firkin is 84 gallons of wine or 8 gallons of ale
 One tierce is 42 gallons of wine
 One barrel is 31.5 gallons of wine or 4 firkins of ale or 42 gallons of oil
 One hogshead is 63 gallons of wine or 1.5 barrels of ale
 One pipe is 1.5 firkins of wine
 One tun is 2 pipes of wine
This is a total mess, especially needing to know if you're talking about wine versus ale. But, if we're talking about hundreds of millions of gallons of water, shouldn't we have some unit bigger than a gallon? Maybe millions of gallons would be used too infrequently for people to remember how many gallons are in the units. But, I think we should start using metric prefixen:  300 megagallons of water
 16 teradollars of national debt
 50.9 to 50.4 megavotes


 